Remove girlfriend on Facebook! – Northern Lights

[Manager] Family Therapist Ian Kerner “unfriended” namely his wife on Facebook. He claims that the marriage was better, and now recommends its clients to do the same, writes Today.

– I realized that I really did not want my wife should be friends with me on Facebook. I did not want all the extra information. If there was anything I wanted – it was either getting less information. I wanted more mystery and more unpredictability, says Kerner.

Logs off

Family therapist explains that he wanted to know when his wife let out a patch that she for example, was tired, or that she drank her third cup of coffee for the day.

– Therefore I took her away as a friend. There really is something I advise other couples.

At the same time encourage Kerner to log completely off your phone when you are together with their closest. And also disconnect from the Internet.

– Studies show that even if a phone is near, it can alter the structure of the conversation, he said.

– If you add together all the time you spend distraction from different devices, you can instead have much time to the relationship. We live in a time where one settles without energy to have sex, or do not have time for each other. Concomitant use few hours on social media or watching Netflix series, says Kerner.

Struggling on the relationship

Samliv Therapist Kate Elin Søyland the Open Dialog in Sandnes like the idea of ​​Kerner to know less interchangeably on Facebook.

– I like his advice! Although there is no advice I give to couples. But it can probably also seem provocative to some – to follow such advice assumes that you are very confident in each other and not struggling with jealousy or other mistrust issues, she says and elaborates:

– It assumes that the couple is really seen each other in real life. Otherwise, it may be counterproductive. There is no getting away from that Facebook can wear away the confidence and passion in your relationship. Why did you her? What did you mean by the last status update – really? Also on.

Søyland points out that it is very evident in the therapy room that our virtual life affects our relationships, especially the relationship – temptations are just a few keystrokes away – we become more absent and communication poorer. Have you quarreled with his girlfriend, there is always someone on Facebook who are ready to comfort, she says.

Fragile love

– Many parts difficult things in the relationship with an interlocutor on Facebook will often associate emotional ties gradually. This can lead to adultery – or end up in a boring facade relationship without good conversations, passion and an inner life. Naturally, there will also be positive aspects, but in the therapy room is unfortunately the negative consequences of our digital world far more.

Søyland believe the American family therapist has the right – because many seek out of relationship (either breakup or infidelity) because they lack excitement and mystery in a routine and safe (but for some – oh so boring) life.

– For some, the act of not being friends on FB. It’s just one of many possibilities. Most important is to find one that suits you and your relationship – instead of just logging on the next screen. All screens do so clearly something about the fragile love – the recipe is as simple as it is difficult; You must log off – in order to log on! (ANB)

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